I enjoy writing about’Relationships’ as it is one of my favorite subjects. Honestly, today relationships have turned out to be similar to the’changing of clothing’ every day. We as human beings have conformed to the practices of the world, and we swing by as the world does. But if you aren’t able to foster or nurture one relationship, then you aren’t likely to nurture the other. Though, there is one exception in my view to what I just stated; it is not to target those connections that are abusive, where the sufferer female or male is physically or mentally abused. We get to live life once, and it does not mean that we succumb to any connection that’s torturous in nature.
After conducting a short research study on the topic, it is realized that different writers have made varying observations regarding this subject. Each writer expresses his/her own opinion as they perceive and define ‘relationship’.
Turn’on’ your Positive Behavior in Relationships
Writer Carr in’Positive Psychology: The Science of Happiness and Human Strengths’ stated that positive psychology is related to the positive emotions and Centurian Wildlife in one’s relationship. This being one aspect, the other is the endurance and perseverance to work at your relationship. If you love and care about your partner then it is obvious that you will work towards sharing a positive relationship.
Quit seeking Perfection on your partner
The understanding is important that we are human beings, and none of us is perfect. Therefore, we can’t expect perfection in our partner. There’ll be sure behaviors that may irritate, or there might be some weaknesses which are too tough to take, but the bottom-line is you have to deal with those behaviors in a positive manner without humiliating or demeaning your spouse. Rather than reacting impulsively to those behaviors, you can wait for the ideal time to talk to your partner about certain behaviors that seem annoying. The confrontational talk has to be non-judgmental, so that your partner is a good recipient to your concerns.
Overcome the Temptation
As we live in a new age it is now easy to change partners or proceed without giving a thought to your connection. The biggest temptation nowadays appears to be ‘gap-fillers’. Gap-fillers are those ‘so-called friends’ who make an entry on your life at just the wrong time. When you face challenging times in your marriage or dating relationship, then it’s normal that you have a friend who acts as your partner replacement. He/She is filled with all the good talks, assurances and may even want you to believe life is worth living, so why live with a spouse you are not pleased with?
But if you think really deep, it can be analyzed or assessed that if you cannot live or put up with one partner, then there is no guarantee that you have the ability to develop a new partner. The beginning days of a new and rosy relationship might seem to be the best, but you never know when the same relationship may turn to your worst.
The best advice when your marriage or relationship isn’t working would be to wait patiently and to give yourself and partner the opportunity to work out whether it is truly over, and for genuine reasons so that you don’t get an opportunity to repent in life for missing out on the very best.