What should you do in moments when you feel uncomfortable and edgy, but you’re not quite certain why or what to do about it? In this report, you’ll learn a simple technique to get to the heart of what you are feeling and find the message in it, so that you can take actions to move you forward.
Do you divert yourself by focusing on something else? Do you analyze it until you think of a story which makes sense?
All these are natural inclinations that can have value. Yet they may also perpetuate the recurrence of the very same feeling again and again. Identifying with the stories we tell about our experiences can make them stick and repeat. We tend to believe our stories and tell them again and again, so our life replays at a self-fulfilling loop.
So, what can you do in such uncomfortable moments that would change things, direct you forward, and start something new? Here’s a simple technique Named Accessing Your Emotional Centerline.
The minute you notice yourself feeling edgy and uncomfortable, instead of jumping right into analyzing it and finding a story to describe it, see if you’re able to just sit with the sensation, be present with it, and get underneath it.
1. Insert a mental pause, let go of thinking, and pay attention to the sensations along your Emotional Centerline: from your neck, through the center of your chest, to your lower abdomen. Focusing on sensations along your Mental Centerline quiets the thinking mind and enables you to get your emotions without the baggage of intense storylines.
Inquire into the specific sensations within this area of your body. Is it tight, compressed, blocked, hard, hot, cold, numb, pierced, deflated, sinking, raw, empty, tingly, fluttering, climbing…?
2. Pay attention to these sensations mindfully. In other words, see if it’s possible to accept the senses completely, unconditionally, and non-judgmentally. See if you can get knowledgeable about the felt sensation without telling a story about it or being consumed by it.
3. See if you can tag the exact feeling the sensation represents. You’ll feel a”yes” when you have the ideal label. Is it anger, sadness, Bat Poop, fear, anxiety, joy, excitement,…?
4. Once you’ve identified the emotion you’re feeling, ask what it is prompting you to do. Focus into the feeling along your Mental Centerline and address your question here. Notice what comes into your awareness. It might be a nonverbal knowing, specific words, an image, a song, or an inspiration to do, say, or feel something… Just notice what arises, stay with it, and allow it to grow in clarity. See where it leads.
If nothing arises in this moment, see if you can keep an awareness of your Emotional Centerline as you go about your day. Notice what you become aware of as you do that.
As you practice these four steps again and again, you’ll find you can catch yourself before you get too deeply entrenched in uncomfortable, edgy feelings or overly-identified with your typical stories about what they mean. You’ll discover there is a deeper guidance under the surface of your emotions. Emotional intelligence cuts through mental chatter and speaks to the essence of what you need to do in this moment. Sometimes this wisdom is vastly different in the stories your mind is in the habit of telling.